Qualities of
a Good
Coach
By Lori
Reynolds
"What is a good coach?” “Why
is HE a good coach?” “What makes him different from other
coaches?”
I’ve been asked these questions—or ones similar—many
times over my years of being a soccer mom. My son has had the same coach
for almost four years, and no matter what organization the team plays
with, I make sure we stay with the same coach. Why? That’s easy. He
possesses qualities that I feel are essential and necessary for being a
positive influence and good coach, such
as:
PATIENCE—This
is probably the most important characteristic. Let’s face it—12 active
boys together require a lot of attention. A good coach is one who doesn’t
expect angels on the soccer field.
TOLERANCE—This quality goes hand-in-hand with patience. Kids
are going to be rowdy, or moody or lazy. Tolerance takes the different
mind-sets and turns the focus to the tasks “afoot”.
ACCEPTANCE—Our children are so very different. Each one has
varied potential and skill levels. A good coach is one who recognizes each
child as an individual and he/she encourages that child to perform at
his/her very best level. Perfection is not
required!
MOTIVATION—Soccer can be viewed as kids kicking a ball across
the field, or it can be viewed as an opportunity for growth. The true test
lies in sparking a child’s interest to learn and grow and keeping that
spark alive each season.
RESPECT—I’ve
seen many games in which the coaches, and sometimes parents, of the other
teams berate and belittle their children for making “mistakes”. Sometimes
they even go as far as criticizing opposing team members. Good grief!
We’re playing U-10 soccer! This isn’t the World Cup. ‘Coach' has never
singled out a child for making a mistake and he does not allow parents or
the other team members to do so either. At the beginning of every season
'Coach' reminds us parents that we’re all in this sport to learn and have
a good time.
SPORTSMANSHIP—Perhaps this should have been on top of the list,
but being toward the end does not lessen the importance. My definition of
sportsmanship is to teach kids to work together as a team in order to
achieve a common goal. It also means teaching kids to respect other
players as well as each other. Insults are not tolerated. Mistakes are
team mistakes, and they are used as teaching tools for the next game.
ABILITY TO TEACH—Sounds simple, right? It’s not. How many times has a
parent signed up a child for a sport, only to have a well-intentioned
father decide to coach? He may or may not know the sport. He may or may
not relate well to his players. There is a huge difference between the
team whose members do what is yelled at them, and the team whose members
actually understand what to do and why. A good coach teaches his players
basic fundamentals, explains concepts and enables his/her players to think
logically when making a play. One of our practice mantras is “You’ve got a
man X and a man X. The ball comes to you. What do you do”? The kids are
able to use logic and make the best choices based on situations.
LOVE OF
KIDS: They have the energy to make every practice and every game a new
experience for coaches and parents alike. Without their vision and energy,
sports would be dull and unappreciated. They offer a day-to-day challenge
for coaches, which is contagious and which is motivation for everyone
involved in athletics at all levels.
LOVE OF THE GAME: Coaches must love their sport, and, more
importantly, must show their players enthusiasm for every aspect of the
game. This would include techniques and tactics. The love of the game must
also show to the players the love for fair-play, respect for the
opponents, officials, and spectators, and positive reinforcement for team
mates. Only a good coach who loves the game can provide the correct
aspects involved in the winning and losing of competition.
One of the reasons we parents encourage our kids to
play sports is to hopefully broaden their horizons and to give them
additional skills they wouldn’t get otherwise. While having a winning
season is great, I consider it a bonus and not the main purpose. Playing
sports should be a positive experience, and it should be one that children
look forward to each and every season.
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